A Great Guy Seeks a Great Lady : Contest

There are many wonderful qualities and traits that MY man possesses that make him a "GREATGUY". In addition to our personal compatibilities, there are qualities about him that I believe every woman wants, but probably won't appreciate unless they've had a bad experience.

My GREATGUY supports me in anything I believe in and in the things I do without him, such as working out at the gym, working part time at home or taking trips back home to Minnesota alone. He never asks me what I weigh or makes digs or negative comments in reference to my size or looks. He makes me feel beautiful even though I don't always feel that way or see in the mirror what he sees. He trusts me. He does not get jealous when I talk to and joke with other men. He is a talker and a great conversationalist. He's interested and always listens to what I have to say. He surprises me with things, not flowers and costly gifts, but small things from the heart. He's thankful and appreciative of the things I do for him. He doesn't smoke. He's not cocky or arrogant and he doesn't consider himself above or better than others. He doesn't gossip or say horrible things about others. He's a dependable and conscientious worker. He is honest and talks about his feelings. If we get in an argument or disagreement, he insists on working it out immediately and then getting over it. He doesn't hold grudges. He doesn't bring up the past or talk excessively about old girlfriends and how great his life USED to be.

He tells me he loves me.

He is my best friend.

In the year 2000, I have been with my soul mate a grand 35 years. I have known him since I was 12 years old. He came into and out of my life for 8 years, we both went in different directions, until one night when my grandmother took me out for dinner to celebrate some special occasion in my life. He and a friend came into the same place we were and we spent the rest of the evening together, getting reacquainted. On the way home I told my grandmother that one day I was going to marry that fellow!

Well, I did, and here I am telling strangers why he's a great guy.

He helps me do the things I can't, he has taken care of me when I have been to sick to crawl, when I've been afraid of things unkown, he doesn't make fun of me. He listens to all my gripping and whinning and never tells me to shut up, that he's sick of hearing it. He gives me advise and moral support and tells me he'd give his life for me if it ever came to that.

We have 2 children, aged 34 and 31, he's never told them no, when they've asked for help of any kind. He's always welcomed all of their friends into our home, even if they weren't exactly the kind you'd want there. Our son and his wife are divorced, but he still does things for our ex daughter-in-law because her dad is no longer living. Even tho she did things that contributed to their divorcing, he still loves her as if she were his daughter.

He holds no grudges, even towards someone who has really hurt him.

He is kind, warm hearted, caring and has a great sense of humor, even if I don't always understand it!

I guess the one most important thing that makes him a great guy, no matter how mad I've ever made him at me, he has never raised his hand to me, nor threatened to strike me. Because my step-father was abusive to my mom that really means a lot to me.

I came from a 10+ year marriage to an alcoholic who was also 10 years my senior. I started dating him when I was 17 (to his 26!!) and was immediately cast in an inferior role. And as the years rolled by, I somehow just remained in that role, to the point where I was almost two different people.....the girl at work, who was happy and confident and the other poor sap who couldn't seem to say what she wanted to say. After my divorce, I was adamant that I would never change the basis of my personality for any man. And 4 (long!!) years after my divorce, I finally found a man who I can simply be myself with - and he likes me just the way I am. I am happy to say that there is only one personality now. I don't think I can convey the feeling of freedom that brings me. I have found my best friend in my greatguy. The good looks and great sex is an added bonus!!! :-)

And yes, he brings me flowers and wine and is always kind and considerate. He has even driven 80 kilometres (50 miles?) at midnight!! to come spend some time with me. He makes me feel very loved and wanted. In short, he makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.....just thinking about him makes me smile. Whenever I'm with him, I just feel like I'm home. (OK, I'm getting corny now....so I'll wind this down!!)

I have found the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with.....have him be the last person I see at the end of the day and the first one I see at the beginning of each new one. I want his children and a life history with him. I want to celebrate a 50th wedding anniversary with him. So, surely to inspire such feelings, he must be a greatguy!!

I WAITED A LONG TIME FOR MY GREATEST GUY

We are a couple of "old folks" who have met each other late in life, but my sweet darling has proved to me that I can still be in love, no matter my age and that with true love everything is new again.

He touches me in places I have never been touched before, in ways unknown to me and has taken me to heights of estacy and desire that were beyond my dreams. I have outlived my first love, and he his, and now together, throwing away all the restraints of our time, we have liberated our feelings for each other and have experienced an intimacy that I had no idea could be mine.

He is patient with me, as I am with him. He is the most perfect lover because he took the time in his life to learn what made a woman feel good and now he smooths that experience all over my mind and body, until I am covered with his love.

There is no doubt that my guy is the greatest guy of all and everyone of you "young bucks" could learn a lot from him. I would suggest that you learn how to take your time, develop an intimacy with true honesty and allow each other to experience the true heights that love can reach. No embarrassment, no shame, complete expression.

The gift of love that my guy has given me is more precious than any material thing and when we are lying together, with our arms wrapped around each other we are as young in heart as any of you.

Contributed by Marsha

My husband and I were high school sweethearts...sort of...I should say that he was more in love than me at the time. Fortunately for me, he doesn't give up easily and because of him I have someone to talk to when my day is extra stressful. I have someone to watch the sun come up with over a cup of coffee. Because of him, I have somebody to hash out out next "project around the house" with. The sun can set over a pretty mountain nearby and I have someone to share it with. Because of him, the simple mundane things can be a joy of living. He makes me appreciate the clouds in the sky and the new buds in the spring.

Sounds pretty corny huh? Well, some days aren't always sun and rainbows...but with my husband I can pretend they are.

Contributed by Cheryl

Well, I did, and here I am telling strangers why he's a great guy.

He holds no grudges, even towards someone who has really hurt him.

He is kind, warm hearted, caring and has a great sense of humor, even if I don't always understand it!

I met Micheal when I was 14 years old and he was 22. He was home on leave from the Navy and the first cousin of my brothers long time girlfriend. I was at my now sister-n-laws house with my brother when I met Micheal for the first time. I had just been in a horrible car accident that caused me to go completely through a windshield and as a result, my face was very "ugly" and full of cuts and stitches. Micheal never even saw that, he saw me, the person I was, not my face. We kept in contact and talked a lot and, when he went back to the ship in California, for about 3 months or so, we stayed friends through the mail. I went on with my life and him with his. I knew then that I loved him but, I was only 14 years old.

We went almost 5 years without talking or seeing one another until, one of his other trips home on leave. Now he was a Cheif in the Navy and, at the age of 26 he still hadn't found "Mrs. Right". I met up with him one day and we decided to go talk at one of the local bars down the road. All we did was talk for a few days and then, one night, out of the clear blue sky, he asked me to marry him. I, of course, said "yes" and, a week and a half later, we were married and I moved to California with him.

The first few months were the hardest because of a few reasons, we had to get to know each other because, honestly, we really didn't know each other at all, I was 2 weeks away from 19 years old and I now found myself 2000 miles aways from home for the first time ever and, I was pregnant and I had a bit of a troubled pregnancy.

Thankfully, 8 and a half years later, we're still together and happier than we've ever been. We also now have 3 wonderful children. He's never had to be told or asked to change a diaper, feed a baby, bathe a baby, mop the floor, cook supper, do laundry. O-kay, so he doesn't clean bathrooms and he hate to wash dishes but, I can't have it all now can I.HAHAHA He didn't even miss doctors appt's while I was pregnant.

At no time in my life did I ever dream that I'd get my "dream man" until Micheal came along. He's truly the best. We have our fights and arguments but, every one of them have only made us both stronger people and a stronger couple. I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. He's truly the best.

Contributed by mlynescar

I am writing about my great guy he is my husband of 9 years we share 4 children ages 8,6,4,3. So to start with we dont have alot of time for each other but my hubby is the greatest. his name is Kevin. We married when he was 18 we had our first child in the first year and then the rest followed. So what makes my hubby the best you ask well he worked a job @4.75 an hr worked up to 12 hrs a day 6 days a week to support us as i was laid off.and to this day he works 10 hrs a day at a better job takes care of the kids while i work a 2nd shift job he helps with the laundry cleans the house fixes supper gives baths helps with homework takes the kids to play ball he is just wonderful. i have read some of the other letters and i seen flowers and sex and how they never argue. well thats not the case here we do argue i love flowers but i would rather have that money for a family day out we have good sex {when we can} we see each other when passing in and out the door from or to work. but he is great he is not all that romantic BUT he takes care of us and provides a great house and i think that is great of him as there is not to many guys who would clean cook work 10 hrs a day and make sure his wife was happy all the time. we have never done any thing on our anniversary but our 10th is next year and he surprised me this year telling me we could go on a cruise next year where ever i wanted. Well to alot of people that wouldnt mean to much but he has been saving for a new truck but instead is taking that money to take me on a cruise. so that is my great guy

Contributed by angela from ohio

My boyfriend is a great guy because he's my best friend. 'Nuff said.

(Hope you weren't looking for something lengthy)

I am sure my guy is the greatest. After many test drives and a few trade-ins I now feel confident that I have the best.

He is confident in his manhood and comfortable in his life and in our relationship. The combination of these two qualities mean that he never has to prove anything either to himself or to me.

He is my best friend and my comfort as well as my lover. For what more could anyone ask?

He often knows what I'm thinking before I do. It was sort of spooky at first, but I've come to accept it. It is as if we are one person in two skins.

We never argue nor do we disagree on the essentials. Life is indeed good!

Contributed by Pearl D from Canada